Friday, April 29, 2011

Singleness of Heart

I am struggling with agonizing thoughts over whether to love again and giving my all in the name of love, or forgetting about it and just living my life as a single woman.  Here's the great dilemma ~ how do you know the other person is giving their all, and not just stringing you along for the fun of it, or for a little entertainment, until something better comes along?

It seems, unfortunately, that I've been the 'entertainment' for several relationships, only to find out that those significant others had other ideas, that they had 'other lives' outside of the relationships that we'd had.  It's sincerely unfortunate that my new Love has to bear the brunt of my past relationships, but it's those relationships that form who I am today.  Those relationships were part of my life, and they have helped shaped my thoughts and actions that I bring to any new relationship.

I want more than anything to give of myself completely, to give my entire being, to the relationship, but there is a small, still voice in the recesses of my mind that is playing devil's advocate.  Can you trust him?  Is he lying to you about you being the only one?  Is he wanting to see other women while he is dating me?  Is our relationship exclusive?  I can't innundate him with these questions or thoughts, for fear of him thinking I'm totally insecure or insane, but the insecurity comes again and again in each new relationship when the significant other has proven his infidelity by cheating.  What could possibly be different about this relationship?  Past issues now become present issues.

I want to be free of any doubt, any insecurities, anything that will compromise the relationship that I have with my Love.  I want that more than anything.  But I also want, in return, the assurance that he is completely and wholeheartedly committed to our relationship.  If not, I'd rather be single.  The pain of letting go is far less than the pain of finding out later in the relationship that he wasn't exclusively committed to me.

Friday, April 22, 2011

Psalm 139

How precious it is, Lord, to realize that You are thinking about me constantly!  I can't even count how many times a day Your thoughts turn toward me.

Psalm 139:17-18 TLB

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Guide Me Lord

Lord, I pray for guidance to know what I need to know, and the patience to wait for You to give me what I need. 

I know that sometimes I get impatient, but I do know that You have my life in Your hands. 

I am human and I fall short daily, even minute by minute, but I know that if I look to You, I will be able to stay the course that You have planned for me.

There are those in the world that try to make me into something that I don't need to be, and there are those who lie to me daily, trying to persuade me to their way of living.  I pray that You will help me to have the wisdom to know what I should do when confronted with these situations. 

Life can be tough, but with You by my side, I know that I can endure the heartaches, disappointments, and the pain that comes my way.

Thank you, Lord, for being my Guiding Light on this journey through life.

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Breathe

I inch my toes into the water, little by little, thinking all is well, not heeding the tiny voice inside of me, giving me little hints to tread lightly.  The water looks good, feels oh so warm and inviting...just let me take a dip, just let me feel the silkiness of the water enveloping all of my being, just for a few minutes.  I close my eyes and venture in a little more, then a little more, and before I know it, I am fully immersed in that soft blanket of deliciousness.  Just as I had imagined, the feeling is all-encompassing.  Time stands still as I take it all in, the beauty, the love, the wonderment.  I hold my breath, afraid to let it out, for fear of breathing this moment away...

Monday, April 18, 2011

What If?

There's a man that I am falling in love with.  He is a kind, considerate, loving man, as well as a great father.  But I am afraid to give my heart away completely, for fear that it will be broken yet again.  What if he changes his mind and decides he doesn't want me in his life anymore?  What if he finds someone new?  Why must I have these "what ifs"?  Is it a safety mechanism, so that I can be somewhat prepared should it happen?  Would these "what ifs" make it any easier should that happen?  What if it DOESN'T happen, and he is the Prince Charming that I've dreamed of for a long, long time? 

I am reminded of movies that I've seen, where two people falling in love don't let each other know, for one reason or another, and they finally go their separate ways, never knowing of each other's feelings.  We cheer them on, cheering them to divulge their innermost feelings to each other, knowing, just knowing, that if they each knew the other person's feelings, all would be well and they would live happily ever after.

I want that 'happily ever after'.  I deserve it ~ everyone does.  I am falling for this man more and more and more every day.  Every conversation that we have, every time that we are together, my feelings only get stronger.  What if I am ready to love again?  What if he knew that...what if I were to tell him one day?

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Shadows

There always seems to be lurking shadows of past behavior, past mistakes, past experiences, beckoning me to visit them once again, to succomb to their power over my thinking, yet my healing takes me further and further away from their grasp, to a place of comfort and safety.  I am a new person, and I no longer need to dwell on those things.  I've come a long way, and I am now able to be ME, with my own mind, my own way of thinking, my own feelings.  I know that as I continue to look forward, to what my mind's eye and my heart of hearts see as my future, I will be comforted by the fact that I am no longer under the control of the shadows.

Heart Strings

It's really sad when life hands you difficult changes, yet in the same breath, it hands you unbelievably exciting changes.  It's an "even-steven" kind of karma, if you will.  You look back at everything that has happened in your life and you wonder why this happened, why that happened ~ is everything predestined to happen or is it just fate?  I personally believe that everything happens for a reason, although I don't understand why.  That's probably the biggest question that I have ~ why do we have to go through all the difficult times to get to the good stuff?

Grooming is a difficult thing, yet it enables us to be completely whole, completely who we are supposed to be, completely pure and right and perfect.  We are being groomed for something fantastic.  The pain and heartache that we face will ultimately be a faded memory, still there, but put away out of reach.  We see in the distance what and who we are meant to be.  Embrace it, embrace change, embrace the pain that is inevitable.  Know that it is our path to life, to love, to wholeness.